Being Vulnerable is Not For The Faint of Heart
It is true, or at least I think so, being vulnerable is not for the faint of heart! As an example last week, in Heart and Mind Matters, I announced that due to Tina’s health issues. I was going to be the primary writer for the near future editions. Coincidentally, or not! We had the largest number of unsubscribes in over a year.
My ego initially took a bit of a hit, like hey! What the $%%$# is with that? Then after a couple of deep breathes, I realized and remembered. That as much of a wonderful, loving caring, compassionate…. Modest, talented good looking and humble person that I am. I am NOT everyone’s cup of tea! There are those in the world that I am not serving and will not be able to serve. So they are doing what is right for themselves and what they need to do to serve their own higher needs! Which, is awesome!!! No really, that is incredible!! Thank you for looking after your needs and making space for those that we (I) can serve fully and to those new people whose energies completely align with ours. WELCOME!!!
So Lets Continue To Be Vulnerable For A Moment
If I was to ask you, who are you and what do you want out of life? What or how would you answer this question? Would you give me a title or a role? Mother, Father? Doctor, Homemake? That you are feeling happy, sad or alone? Would the question trigger fear, because you don’t know how to answer the question? Would you answer the questions based on what you thought I wanted to know? Or answer the questions on how you were taught to answer questions so wouldn’t hurt my feelings’? Because you were just trying to be polite! Make a mental note of your responses!
I ask you to take a peek at all your relationships. (Romantic and plutonic) when was the last time you had a real conversation with yourself and others. That didn’t involve a movie, TV show, book or what the neighbors or a coworker were doing? A conversation that you felt safe to FREELY express how you felt, or you didn’t put yourself down for feeling a particular way?
Let me ask you, when’s the last time you held a conversation that started with;
“That makes me feel like..”
“I would like to…”
When’s the last time you held a real conversation and truly shared your dreams, goals and aspirations around, money, finances, spiritual or religious beliefs and even sex with those closest to you?
When’s the last time you really, truly and deeply felt heard. Boom… That one might sting for some. As some of you may not have a safe place to feel heard. As we slowly work our way out of the effects of the pandemic, finding a safe space is critical for your mental health and well being. Find your tribe!
Draw in those people that get you and understand you at a heart and soul level and let go of those that don’t support your higher good! Let go of those that don’t ask you, “How do you feel? Or, “Is there something I can do for you?”
Take a moment out of busy life and reach out and contact a friend a relative, that you have not talked to in a while, “Ask them how they are doing?”
Know this you are loved!